Wednesday, April 16, 2008

The Four Agreements



The four agreements by Don Miguel

The simple ideas of The Four Agreements provide an inspirational code for life; a personal development model, and a template for personal development, behaviour, communications and relationships. Here is how Don Miguel Ruiz summarises 'The Four Agreements':

Agreement 1 - Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Agreement 3 - Don’t make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Agreement 4 - Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Saturday, April 05, 2008

龟兔赛跑


《龟兔赛跑》这是摘自NLP学员洪艺超的个人博客的文章,内容发人深省!
Source: http://gcang68.blogspot.com/

这是一本很好的书,这本书是我去年刚读完的一本书,整本书让我认识到,无论我被看成是“乌龟”或“兔子”,在上帝眼中能成为贵重的器皿,被上帝使用。龟兔赛跑耳熟能详,但这本书以不同角度来描述龟兔赛跑,发人省思,读后回味无穷。

与您分享书内10招作者施以诺所写的。
第一招:龟壳,可以当滚轮!-把「缺点」给改造成「特点」
许多往往看似不幸的事,往往都蕴藏作上帝美好的旨意,把原本看似「缺点」、缺陷的,给变成您的「特点」、「卖点」,您必会有喜出望外的成果。

第二招:改走「水路」如何?-走一条符合自己恩赐的路
每个人的恩赐、才华、专长都不一样,很多时候不是你注定就天生跑不快,而是你所走的跑道并不适合自己。

第三招:让自己比「兔子」更早起跑!
跑不快?没关系,比兔子更早起跑,比那些天之骄子更早开始努力,你一样可以不同凡响。

第四招:善用、学习乌龟「稳重」的精神
对人类而言,稳重绝对不会变成「慢」,相反的,学习稳重的功课可以让一个人在其人生的赛程中走得既快且平顺。

第五招:做一只开心、乐观的乌龟
负面的情绪就像一个「趁火打劫」的恶霸!它不但不会给予身陷困境中的你任何帮助,反而还会把你仅有、仅剩的东西也毫不留情的夺去。

第六招:跌倒了,再爬起来!
无论你面临的是那一种失败,只要你有勇气再站起来,你的失败就只是「暂时的」;但如果你就一蹶不振,那么你的失败就会是「永远的」。

第七招:别学兔子睡大觉-天,才是懂得珍惜、善用时间的人
圣经中有一句著名的祷告词:「求你指教我们怎样数算自己的日子,好叫我们得着智慧的心。」可不是吗?善用自己日子的分分秒秒,才是智慧人。

第八招:谦虚是最好的捷径
所罗门王说:「败坏之先,人心骄傲;尊荣以前,必有谦卑。」一个骄傲的人不但「跑」不快,更易重重的摔一跤。

第九招:「翻书」要快,「翻脸」要慢
很多人常常翻脸比翻书还快,但我们应懂得克服自己性格上的盲点,让自己「翻书快、翻脸慢」,做一个博学而随和的人。

第十招:大方地与兔子互动,共创双赢!
人生的路上不一定要争个你输我赢,想一想,「你赢我也赢」不是更皆大欢喜吗?
  
希望以上10招,能在您的漫漫人生道路有多种启发。